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Sexy Thoughts.
Sexy thoughts are a turn on for people - to help get you in the
mood - daydream about naughty thoughts - anticipate steamy
encounters hours or days before they happen!
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Dress Sexy to Be Sexy.
If you want to appear desirable - you have to take some risks,
and be bold in how you dress. Different things work for
different people. Temporary tattoos, sunglasses, sharp clothes,
and good grooming make an impression. The power of lingerie
can't be over-estimated.
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De-stress your life and get enough
sleep.
Stress, depression, and fatigue will drain your sex appeal more
than anything else. Try to cut back on work and find things to
do that make you laugh. Go to see a sexy comedy and just relax
and enjoy it.
Use Your Sex Appeal
to Get Attention or Seduce
- Aphrodisiacs. Sometimes
they get help draw out the desire in a partner. In modern
culture, perfume and cologne are also aphrodisiacs as well - you
can use them in all the right places to make you feel desirable
and radiate sex appeal to a partner.
- Energy and Sex Appeal.
Get someone to desire you by sending energy in their direction.
Men must believe that they could be "desired" by a woman to feel
sexually attracted to the woman. Sexual energy is mainly
concerned with accepting yourself and loving yourself; you need
to love yourself to be loved and desired!
- Seduction is in the little things.
Touch your partner suggestively when you are out in public,
nuzzle your lover's ear, play footsie, give suggestive calls at
the office - above all, be playful.
- Touching. If you want
someone to notice your sex appeal, a friendly touch on the hand
or shoulder to get their attention works wonders. Just relax -
don't be pushy or too aggressive.
- To Get Attention…Give Attention
there is nothing better than someone who will take the time to
listen. Yes even women need to learn this good habit. Staring
soulfully into another's eyes, you fixed longingly on every word
will make that person feel desired. In this world of emails,
pagers, and multiple phone lines we often forget how easy it is
to be distracted by the constant ringing of our communication
multi-tasking world.
How to Keep Your
Love Life Hot!
- Read sexy books to inspire you - and leave them sitting out if you want to be suggestive to a
potential partner. Suggestions include:
- 101 Nights of Great Sex by Laura Corn
- The Erotic Edge (22 erotic stories for couples) by Lonnie Barbach
- Ladies Own Erotica by the Kensington Ladies Erotica Society
- Skin (sensual tales) by Catherine Hiller
- Lust (Lascivious Love Stories and Passionate Poems) by Miller and
Miller (collection of love stories and poems from famous
authors)
- Eat Me by Linda Jaivin
- Penthouse Forum magazine
- Sex-friendly prescriptions.
Many common medications can be saboteurs to your love life and
sex appeal. If you need to take medications, try to a more
"sex-friendly" substitute. For example, if you have a
cold or an allergy, instead of taking Contac or Tavist-D,
try Allegra or Claritin. Antihistamines (such as Benadryl) that
contain the ingredients diphenhydramine or phenylpropanolamine
can interfere with sex in a number of ways.
Antihistamines act as a muscle relaxant and you need a certain
amount of muscle tension to reach orgasm. Both antihistamines
and decongestants, including those contining pseudoephedrine
(such as Sudafed), may also dry out the body's mucous membranes,
making intercourse uncomfortable. An artificial lubricant, such
as Astroglide, may help, as can trying a prescription medication
such as Claritin, Zytec, or Allegra.
Other medications to watch out for: (a) Diet Pills;
(b) Depression - instead of using Prozac,
Zoloft, Paxil, Effexor (and other SSRIs) - try Wellbutrin or
Serzone; (c) Ulcer, Gastritis - instead of
using Tagamet - try Zantac, Pepcid AC, or Pepto-Bismol;
(d) Heartburn - instead of using Tagamet HB - try
Maalox or Tums; (e) Migraine - instead of using
Inderal (propranolol) - try Imitrex or Cafergot. (Thanks to
Beth Howard of Glamour Magazine!)
- Venus and Mars in the Bedroom. John Gray's book - Venus and Mars in the Bedroom. Discusses the
differences that men and women have in their feelings about sex
and sex appeal.
- Apprciate what you have in your partner…No
person comes completely assembled, what I mean by that is that
there is no perfect match. So look for the things that orginally
attracted you to this person, and focus on the positive.
- Chocolate. If nothing
else works, look for Mr. Goodbar and enjoy.
Aphrodisiacs
- Create a
love oil perfume; for a woman to attract a man - use scent of
Jasmine, Lavender, Gardenia, or Musk - for a man to attract a
woman - wear Bay or Musk scented oils - always in public - to
get attention you should wear something red - red clothing, red
gemstones (e.g., garnet), or red flowers
- Smell of
pumpkin pie - use it on your man
- Ginseng -
tea, root, or powder - stimulates passionate energy
- Dried root
of St. Johns Wort - place in a muslin bag in wear around the
neck
- Asparagus -
boil asparagus and make it with scrambled eggs - have a great
erotic effect
- Pine Nuts -
will increase your fertility - we have pine nut recipes for
those looking to have children
- Baked figs
with honey - drizzle honey over figs and bake until they ooze
their sweetness - will enhance your lover's romantic appetite
- Champagne -
bring expectant lovers into the perfect mood for romance
- Cinnamon -
use it in tea - to make your man feel more romantic
Creating Romantic
Memories
Anytime you spend time with a special
friend can be created into a romantic memory, when you capture a
momento of the occasion.
- Walks in the park, pick up an
unusual stone, and when you get home paint your initials and the
date on it, for an attractive paperweight for you home or
office.
- Keep a Calendar of special memories or
events (woo woo) - or keep a diary!
- That’s Entertainment- Movie or
theatre stubs, can be the beginning of a scrap book. Years later
you can settle the discussion of which movies and plays you
actually did see together.
- Create a special place - like the
bookcase in our bedroom, where you keep all your special
romantic and sexy memories and remind yourself of the fun in
your life - and how you ARE an exciting, romantic person!
- Disposable cameras-- these one time
use camera's are fun to stick in a jacket pocket and take great
pics as you explore downtown Washington DC, and no body is heart
broken if while wading in the Tidal Basin you accidentally let
it fall into the water. Speaking of water, there are underwater
versions of one time use camera's that can be used while scuba
diving to take pretty pics of fish or more unusual things that
may be floating underwater, that are photo opportunities for
your eyes only.
- Photo album, Working on your album
together is creating another memory because it is something you
are doing together. So bake up a batch of fat free cranberry
muffins and brew some hot cocoa, put on some slow sexy jazz and
have some fun.
- Romantic Memories can be cultivated in
non romantic circumstances, the key is to have fun
and be playful.
- Romantic Memories on line. There
are all kinds of FREE online cards that can be sent to capture
your feelings even send them while you are working from your
office.
- Keep a binder of your online romance
memories and other romantic memories.
- Mementos from Trips and Romantic
Occasions. Make sure to bring back something from that
special trip.
- Create your own special mementos -
create your own snow globes, or photo mugs - create computer
wallpaper and slideshows of special times together!
- Special Thoughts - other seeming
simple things can take on greater meaning if you let them and
remember…
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