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A sensual
massage is a great stress reliever; removes toxins from the
body; and most important is an incredible erotic experience.
Because the skin is the largest organ of the body and is covered
with thousands of nerve endings, the very nature of touch
stimulates all of our senses.
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Setting the mood
Creating a sensual
environment is the beginning of truly great massage. Lighting,
sound, smell and temperature all go into setting the mood. You do
not want to be disturbed so turn off the phones and have a way to
lock the door. Illuminate the room with soft lighting or
candles. Exotic incense or scented candles add a nice touch.
While it would be wonderful to have a commercial massage table,
you can use a bed, table or floor - just make sure you have plenty
of padding on any hard surface. If you are going to use a bed,
position your partner cross ways at an angle and make sure you
have lots of washable towels, sheets and a good mattress pad so
the mattress doesn't get stained. Assemble oils, lubricants,
erotic toys (feathers, vibrator, blindfold, etc.), clean sheets,
blankets and pillows. Make sure that the room is warm enough for
the person lying naked (at least 78 degrees). Check your
fingernails for length to make sure that they you won't be
inflicting any wounds. Last but not least is the right music.
Selections should be soothing, relaxing and have the ability to
repeat. You don't want to stop the massage to change the music.
Also keep glasses of
drinking water handy for both you and your partner.
Lotions & Oils
Lubrication is an absolute necessity for a good massage. There
are lots of different kinds of massage oils and creams. You may
want to purchase a Massage Kit which has all of these items
already assembled. Also try Honey Dust which is a smooth edible
powder that creates a unique sensation when dusted and massaged on
the body. Once again it will come down to personal preference as
to the texture and fragrance you prefer. There are two
considerations in using an oil based formula for massage. If you
are using a condom at some point during the massage don't use
anything with an oil base - oil weakens latex. The second, oil
based products can cause vaginal infections in women. Also make
sure that any product you use to massage the body does not contain
Nonoxynol-9 which will irritate the skin. Always warm the
massage lotion before you start the application by warming it in
the microwave or placing the bottle in a bowl of warm water. Also
apply the lubricant to your hands first and then rub them together
before applying the lubricant to your partner. Keep the massage
lubricants in close proximity to the area where you are giving the
massage and replenish often.
Massage Techniques
- In our culture, we sorely lack in physical contact with each
other. In other countries, especially the Mediterranean, touch
is very important. It doesn't always mean that the person who's
touching wants sex. It's not considered sexual harassment.
Humans need that caring physical contact, on a daily basis.
That's what's so wonderful about massage. It allows us to
experience that sensual world of touch without the pressures of
having sex. Of course, there's nothing wrong with ending a
massage with sex, but what's important is it doesn't have to end
that way. Massage is a wonderful way to get close and sensual
with someone you care deeply about. Below are some different
techniques to help you expand your massage repertoire.
- First, we must cover the basics:
- The best place to give a massage is while your partner is
lying on a table or the floor, padded with some blankets. The
bed is usually where most massages happen, but it does not
provide enough of support for your partner's back and may also
put unnecessary strain on it.
- A massage is best if given to nude person. If your partner
does not want to be nude, then a bathing suit or underwear is
good too. A massage is more sensual and erotic when you can both
feel skin touching skin.
- Since a massage is best without clothes or with as little as
possible, the room should be heated and free from drafts. A
temperature of 70 degrees or above is usually good. Just make
sure you don't make it too hot either.
- Make sure you have some type of massage oil. A lubricated
body massage feels much better than a dry one. Lubrication means
no friction and easy glide. There are many massage oils
available on the market today. Most are scented and some are
even edible. Our staff favorite here is the
Kama Sutra Massage Oils. It's always good to keep your
massage oil warm. Cold oil and hands can not only kill the mood,
but also cause discomfort. To do this, just keep the bottle of
oil immersed in a bowl of hot tap water. And rub the oil into
your hands, so they stay warm too.
- If your massage will include the male genitals then oil,
water or silicone based lubes and even the massage oil itself
are all okay. Our favorite lubes are
Wet Platinum and
Wet Classic. A water or silicone based lube is okay to use
on women's genitals. Oil based lube and massage oils are not
recommended if anything will be inserted into the vagina, i.e.
fingers, toys, etc. because oil does not flush out easily, which
can promote bacterial growth resulting in a yeast infection. Our
favorite lubes are Wet Light or
ID Glide Sensual Lubricant.
- Make the massage room a sensual environment. Dim the lights,
light some candles, turn on some sexy, relaxing music
(rainforest soundtrack, harp music or a soft classical album),
and most importantly, turn off the ringer on your phone (house,
cell, beeper). For a successful massage, you must be free from
distractions. It's all about you and your partner becoming one
with each other.
- Before starting any massage, make sure you are relaxed,
yourself. There's nothing worse than an uptight masseuse giving
a very rough massage.
- Okay now that we have our supplies and our room set, let's
talk about some techniques. The best massage is one that focuses
on the entire body. For ease of instruction, we'll focus on the
separate areas of the body. For the purpose of this article,
your partner is lying on his/her stomach.
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- Neck and Shoulders
- The neck and shoulders are a great place to begin because an
awful lot of tension is kept there. The sooner you start to work
out those knots the more relaxing your partner will be for the
rest of the massage, resulting in more enjoyment. Apply a
dime-size drop of oil into your palms and rub your hands
together to make sure your hands are warm, then fan your hands
out on his/her upper back and align your thumbs about an inch
away from each other on either side of the spinal cord. Using
tips of your fingers and thumb, not your nails, gently grip your
partner's shoulders and knead the skin. But make sure you grab a
good amount of skin as to not pinch. And don't do it hard and
fast. The key is slow and gentle. If you don't use gentle
pressure, your partner will tense up and by pulling and pushing
against a tense muscle, you could bruise it. So take it easy.
- Another good technique on the neck is to place one hand on
either side of the neck and apply a small amount of pressure.
Then move your hands in a circular motion. Remember slow and
gentle circles. As your doing this, work your hands up behind
your partner's ears and back down to the shoulders.
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- Back, Sides and Buttocks
- At this point you can work your way down your partner's
back. Now the back is the center of any massage because it is
composed of three large groups of muscles. Continue this
circular motion with both hands on each side of the spine. And
spread out your hands and the area you cover to include the
sides and lower back too. Now try some light feathery touches
all over the back, sides and lower back. Use both hands, one on
each side of the spine and rub in a diagonal motion from the
spine out. Use small, quick strokes. After that lightly rub your
hands all over your partner's back. One key to a good massage is
after you do anything that may be a little on the rougher side,
do something light, smooth and soft to connect all those areas
you just worked on. Now you're ready to tackle the buttocks.
Using the inside of your forearm, slowly rub one butt cheek at a
time in large circular motions. When finished with that, make a
fist and roll your knuckles, one by one, over the the triangular
bone at his/her lower back. This is another area that holds an
awful lot of stress. So take care when applying pressure.
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- Legs
- Kneel at your lover's side, oil up your hands and grab
his/her ankle and knead with your thumbs and fingers all the way
up his/her leg. Do not use too much pressure behind the knees
because it could injure sensitive veins. Once you reach the
thighs, rub your entire hands in a circular motion and knead the
skin. Just be careful, the thighs can be a highly erogenous
zone, so if you want to finish your massage, make sure you take
care.
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- Feet
- Now here's a very sensitive area of the body. Massaging the
feet can sometimes be like massaging the soul. Some people can
also be very ticklish, so it might do you good to find out
beforehand, so your lover doesn't start flailing about when you
accidentally tickle him/her. If your lover has very ticklish
feet make sure you use a firmer grip and apply more pressure.
Most of the time, a lighter touch is what drives people crazy.
If he or she is super sensitive, then you might want to avoid
the feet altogether.
- If you decide to massage the feet, here's some techniques.
Grab his/her foot, soles of feet facing you with thumbs on soles
and fingers on top of feet. Move your thumbs in a circular
motion while applying pressure to the balls of the feet. Then
massage each toe by lightly squeezing it between your thumb and
index finger, then gently pulling on each one.
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- Head and Face
- The best way to end a massage is by massaging your lover's
head and face. This brings it full circle and also brings you
closer to your lover, allowing the two of you to be intimate
with each other. A head massage can be wonderfully relaxing and
arousing. Of course, to massage the head, you don't need any
massage oil. You might actually want to have a towel handy so
you can wipe your hands off before the head massage. Start by
gently stroking your fingers through his/her hair. If his/her
hair is long make sure you don't get your fingers stuck in
knots, so be careful. Using the tips of your fingers, gently
knead his/her head, the whole head. Work your way over to the
temples and use the tips of your first two or three fingers.
Gently rub in a circular motion. Then lightly run your fingers
across his/her entire face. Using your finger tips lightly tap
his/her face, like raindrops were falling from the sky. With
your thumb and first finger, rub your lover's earlobes and ears.
Then lightly run your hands over his/her eyes, eyebrows and
lastly lips. If you want to get more intimate, gently kiss your
lover on the eyelids, tip of nose and lips.
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- We have provided you with some basic massage techniques.
There are many more techniques for you and your lover to share.
There are also many ways to massage the genitals.
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